Like a Cheating Wife?

Imagine reading this open letter:

For those in the body who are not yet aware, my wife has announced to me that she is involved with somebody else. Because there are many things about this affair that seem so inexplicable to me, I have chosen to write publicly about it, hoping that somebody might be able to help me make some sense of it all.

First, let it be understood that her announcement was not a confession of any sort, but just a sharing of the intentions of her heart. There has been no remorse on her part; she has merely informed me of her plans.

But, here is where it really gets strange--

She told me that she has no intention whatsoever of putting an end to the relationship, for, in her words, the relationship “really magnifies the love she has for me,” and that it is “because of her immense love for me, that she will be involved with this other person twice every year.”

She has made it clear that she will not be keeping this biannual rendezvous a secret either, for she believes the more people who are made aware of this, the more they will be drawn to us, and want to be our friends. Please explain how that could happen!?! It reminds me of a movie from several years ago called “Same Time Next Year,” in which a man and a woman carried on an adulterous affair, but they only saw each other once a year, and at no other times. At least they hid what they were doing.

Moreover, she believes I should be honored by the fact that she refers to this other person only by my name, and she calls him by my name (even though the name she calls me has never even been my name--it's a fake name that was invented to hide my true name; but that's a different matter). I just find that to be really creepy.

Another thing I find just as creepy is that she states that for several days before each of her “visits,” she will decorate our home with things that remind her of him, but again, many of those things will have the name she calls me on them. That just seems to me to be bragging to the world about her unfaithfulness, and I think it also aligns her, in many ways, with the multitudes of people who cheat on their spouses, and find it perfectly acceptable to do so. I really don't want to see her that way.

But, here's where it gets really bizarre (as if it weren't already). I know my wife very well, and through all of the conversations we've had about this affair, I can see that, deep in her heart, she really cannot see anything wrong with what she is doing. I mean, I think it hurts her deeply when I try to explain to her just how wrong what she is doing is. And, those conversations we've had seem only to have strengthened her resolve to continue on in the affair. It's as if she truly believes that her affair brings us together much more intimately, and will also benefit others when they see her devotion to it.

I love my wife. I truly do. And, I am completely committed to her. I don't want to hurt her in any way, and when I express my feelings about what she is doing, I can see the intense pain it causes her to think that I might want her to put an end to it. Why can't she see just how much her actions are hurting me?


Of course, those of you who actually know my wife know that nothing could be further from the truth here. But, what if your spouse made this announcement to you? How would you feel? Why do so many believe that the Messiah is any less hurt by the two annual “holydays” that are celebrated by those who call themselves His bride?

Written by Dean Haskins for Way of the Tabernacle. Reproductions with proper attribution are allowed and encouraged.









But now in Yahoshua the Messiah you who formerly were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ. For He Himself is our peace, who made both groups into one and broke down the barrier of the dividing wall, by abolishing in His flesh the enmity, which is the Law of commandments contained in ordinances, so that in Himself He might make the two into one new man, thus establishing peace, and might reconcile them both in one body to Yah through the cross, by it having put to death the enmity. Ephesians 2:13-16